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Politeness is normally a good thing. After all, that's why we use it. But there are occasions when excessive politeness becomes counter-productive, causing confusion, delay or inadvertent stress. When your words are tactful, it's usually so that you can save someone else time, clarity, or energy. But, if you're being kind, or respectful, or tactful in these situations, it's not necessarily going to make things any easier. In fact, it's going to make your life really, really hard. Here are 10 times when politeness can really backfire.

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