I Called Out My Brother for Not Doing the Bare Minimum To Support His Wife and Kids

young sad man cleaning with detergent spray and sponge washing and making home kitchen sink clean feeling tired and bored in home work and single man domestic wash labor concept

In an era where gender norms have evolved, and responsibilities have become more gender-neutral, a dysfunctional family finds it challenging to keep pace. Recently, a social media user found himself caught in a storm and turned to the public for opinions on the situation.

Featured Image Credit: focuspocusltd /Depositphotos.com.

The Good Wife

Full length view of beautiful frustrated brunette woman sitting on the floor thinking.
Image Credit: AndrewLozovyi /Depositphotos.com.

The Original Poster (OP) began by expressing his admiration for his brother, his brother’s wife Rachel, and their two children. Rachel had a part-time, work-from-home job and handled all house chores. OP also noticed that Rachel cared for her children single-handedly, curating a strict schedule for herself. Rachel told OP that she would wake up at 5 in the morning, clean the house, and prepare the meals for the family. OP found some of her house-management tips and tricks to be useful for their chores as well.

Stay At Home Dad

Side view of father with little daughter sitting at table and drawing
Image Credit: AllaSerebrina /Depositphotos.com.

As days passed by, OP’s brother lost his job. Rachel took it upon herself and rejoined her full-time job to support the family finances. Meanwhile, OP’s brother decided to stay home and keep up with all the house chores and managing the children. Everyone thought it was easy for him since the children studied in kindergarten and first grade.

Reality Check

Young father under stress due to baby crying at night. Holding a clock.
Image Credit: Elnur_ /Depositphotos.com.

OP quickly realized that his brother found it difficult to manage it alone. So, OP occasionally helped him out. However, after repeated trials, OP concluded that his brother could not do the basics well. Some examples of his irresponsible behavior were the messy house and the children being dropped off late at school, despite OP’s brother being unemployed.

OP also cut him slack for being new at these responsibilities and occasionally dropped off the children at school. But his lazy acts could not hide under the covers as he did not even prepare food for the children. What was coming next was no shocker as the hardworking wife could not ignore the unkempt house and frequent school complaints.

The Aftermath Of The New Normal

Portrait of unhappy young couple who have fallen out over a disagreement sitting on a sofa. Woman in the front and the man in the background.
Image Credit: lucidwaters /Depositphotos.com.

After days of chaos, OP shared that the couple had a heated argument over their individual responsibilities. The situation escalated when OP’s brother claimed that it was all too sudden and new for him, and he was trying his best to adapt. OP couldn’t remain silent any longer; he confronted his brother about his lack of responsibility and accountability, comparing him to Rachel. He also pointed out that with no job, his brother had plenty of free time at home to at least sweep the floor once in 8 hours.

From Bad To Worse

Angry boss shouting to an employee
Image Credit: minervastock /Depositphotos.com.

Things took a dramatic turn when OP’s brother impulsively resorted to name-calling, adding to the family drama. Even his mother jumped into the fray, accusing OP of going too far.

Later, his mother apologized to Rachel after seeing the school complaints and messy kitchen pictures. She warned OP’s brother to either step up or leave the house. As of now, the situation remains uncertain, and OP is seeking unbiased opinions on the matter.

Online Opinions

Three surprised women holding a rotary telephone in a kitchen
Image Credit: creatista /Depositphotos.com.

ThisIsTheCaptain criticized OP for sugar-coating his brother’s behavior. Commenter said, “Sugarcoating wouldn’t have made your point any less valid. This (being a SAHF) is his job now and he is under-performing. Maybe this subpar work effort is why he lost his other job to begin with.”.

Garden Quartz emphasized not condoning laziness, especially when one family member is giving their all. They argued that being lazy is no excuse for not having the time to learn basic household responsibilities.

More Criticism Pours In

Sad couple mad at each other in their living room
Image Credit: Wavebreakmedia /Depositphotos.com.

Dizzy_Cantaloupe_388 believed that threatening divorce was an excessive step and pointed out the emotional state of OP’s brother after losing his job. The user further added, “He’s had years to learn from his wife and never took any interest assuming she would always be the one to do everything, and now he’s hopefully finally appreciating how hard she works to keep everything in order.

The Final Verdict

Businessman making stop gesture. Focus on a hand. Do not enter.
Image Credit: Vadymvdrobot /Depositphotos.com.

Most users sided with OP and Rachel regarding the stay-at-home-father’s laziness and lack of accountability. However, many also emphasized the importance of letting the man learn from his mistakes.

These observations shed light on the shifting dynamics of familial roles, particularly in cases of ill-fitted role reversals. The situation serves as a valuable lesson in evolving family roles and responsibilities.

Would you spare the SAHF for his deeds, or were OP’s reactions over the top? Let us know in the comments below.

“10 Things That Will Fade Away as the Baby Boomer Generation Bows Out”

Vintage 1960 woman in convertible car looking over sunglasses.
Image Credit: ysbrand /Depositphotos.com.

The winds of change are upon us, and as the baby boomer generation slowly makes its way into their senior years, many users agree that there are certain aspects of life that will inevitably fade into the past. The generational shift is bound to bring about transformations that might leave us both nostalgic and relieved.

10 Things That Will Fade Away as the Baby Boomer Generation Bows Out

“18 Things Millennials Do That Annoy Boomers”

Girl wearing noise-cancelling headphones and holding the headphones on her ears, smiling.
Image Credit: EdZbarzhyvetsky /Depositphotos.com.

Millennials, also known as Generation Y, are the demographic cohort born between 1981 and 1996. They have grown up in a world that is vastly different from that of their parents and grandparents, the Baby Boomers. As a result, there are certain behaviors and attitudes that Millennials exhibit that can be perceived as annoying by Boomers.

18 Things Millennials Do That Annoy Boomers

“13 Things That Were Once Highly Respected But Is Now a Complete Joke”

Close-up of confident soldier against american flag
Image Credit: Wavebreakmedia /Depositphotos.com.

We scoured social media threads to bring you the most candid and honest responses from real people. From the mundane to the shocking, we have compiled a comprehensive list of the things that were once highly respected but is now a complete and utter joke.

13 Things That Were Once Highly Respected But Is Now a Complete Joke

“11 Old-School Etiquette Rules You Don’t Need To Follow Anymore (And 3 You Do)”

A creative vintage photo of a beautiful pin-up girl drinking tea and showing good table manners on colorful abstract cartoon style background.
Image Credit: fisher.photostudio /Depositphotos.com.

In a rapidly changing world, social norms and etiquette have evolved significantly over the years. What was once considered proper and polite may now seem outdated and unnecessary. While some old-school etiquette rules still hold value today, others have become obsolete.

11 Old-School Etiquette Rules You Don’t Need To Follow Anymore (And 3 You Do)

“22 Things Non-Boomers Share That Makes Them a Complete Boomer”

Photo of excited nice woman in striped dress grabbing her head and expressing surprise isolated over blue wall
Image Credit: Vadymvdrobot /Depositphotos.com.

A social media post asked folks to share what makes them feel like total “boomers” even as they embrace the digital age. Their responses were both amusing and relatable, proving that no matter how advanced we become, some things will always have us shaking our heads.

22 Things Non-Boomers Share That Makes Them a Complete Boomer

DISCLOSURE: The post may contain affiliate links, which means that I may receive a small commission if you make a purchase using these links. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. You can read our affiliate disclosure in our privacy policy. This site is not intending to provide financial advice. This is for entertainment only.

Pri Kingston

Ash & Pri are the Founders of AshandPri.com and have spent the last decade building their way towards financial freedom and a lifetime of memories. Having successfully achieved their early retirement goal in under 10 years, they look forward to sharing their financial sense with like-minded people. Read more about Ash & Pri in the 'About Us' section.