Married life should feel like partnership, but sometimes it doesn’t. If you find yourself acting more like a parent than a partner, then you may be married to a man child. It’s exhausting and frustrating to live with someone like this. You can’t build a life together with a child who refuses to become an adult. Let’s take a closer look at some of the obvious signs you may have married a man-child.
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He Avoids Responsibility
A man-kid does not want to handle adult responsibilities. He might avoid bill-paying, housework or long-term planning. Rather, he puts everything in your hands. If you try to get him involved, he might say he’s busy or make other excuse. It can also make you look like you’re taking care of him rather than being partners with him. Over time, it makes you frustrated and exhausted because the whole burden falls on you.
He Struggles With Basic Life Skills
A man child depends on other people to take care of everyday work. He won’t have the ability to cook, clean or wash clothes. Without you, these might never get done. When things go wrong, he can act helpless or blame others. This means he’s not learned to stand up for himself and you have to pick up the slack. You’ll feel like you are sharing space with a teenager rather than an adult man.
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He Acts Selfishly
A man child puts himself first. He may spend on gadgets or hobbies without worrying about bills or saving. He can ignore your wants or reject your emotions when you express them. For instance, he may prefer hanging out with friends over with you. His self-centered behaviors can leave you feeling ignored and unappreciated in the relationship.
He Throws Tantrums
When things don’t go his way, a man child overreacts. He may scream, sulk or even smash things because he is frustrated. These tantrums might feel more like you’re dealing with a child rather than an adult. Rather than handling matters calmly, he creates more stress – such a behavior makes mature conversation or conflict resolution very difficult.
He Avoids Tough Conversations
Man children don’t like discussing serious topics. When you talk about something important, such as money or a relationship issue, he will change the subject or shut down. He might ask something like “Why do we have to talk about this now?” This avoidance makes it hard to deal with issues – so you have to handle it alone. It leaves you feeling unheard and unwelcome over time.
He Needs Constant Praise
A man child usually craves praise for even little things. Even when he does something small, like emptying the garbage, he expects praise. If he isn’t getting it, he will complain or act angry. This need for constant approval can be exhausting. Rather than acting like a partner, he acts like an adolescent in need of constant reassurance.
He Prioritizes Fun Over Work
Man children prefer fun to work. He might waste hours on video games, television or with friends, when there’s urgent work to be done. He’s not bothered by deadlines, tasks or commitments. This casual approach can put a strain on your shoulder as you attempt to take care of everything by yourself.
He Struggles With Commitment
A man child often has issues making commitments to plans, aims or even to the relationship. He may deny talking about the future or putting off savings or important joint decisions. His unwillingness to commit can leave you uncertain where the relationship will take you.
He Blames Others For His Problems
When something does not go right, a man child rarely takes responsibility. If something goes wrong, it’s going to be someone else’s fault — either his boss, his colleagues or even you. This failure to accept responsibility for his actions is immature. It also makes problem solving tough, since he’s more about pointing fingers than actually fixing it.
He Expects You To Mother Him
The most obvious sign of a man child is that he expects you to take care of him. He may ask you to prepare his meals, pick up after him, or keep him updated on dates. If you don’t, he gets confused and upset. That relationship can make you feel like his parent, not his lover, which is exhausting and unhealthy in the long term.
Disclaimer: This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information.
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