Ten behaviors of women who are destined to grow old alone and isolated, according to psychology

Most of the time, it’s not a huge argument that leaves some women alone and isolated, but actually their habits that slowly destroy their relationships over time.

Only contacting people when she needs something

Anytime that she messages someone, there’s some kind of favor attached. She’ll ask whether you can pick her up or lend her money, as well as if you’re willing to listen to a crisis late at night. That’s not to say there’s something wrong with needing help or anything.

The issue here comes from the silence in between, where she gives no check-ins and no questions about how the other person is doing. People start picking up on the fact that a woman only makes conversation when she needs something. They stop replying soon after.

Dropping friends whenever she enters a relationship

There’s one thing you can guarantee will happen when a new relationship begins. Her friends basically vanish from her schedule. No more catch-ups, no more attending special events, because now, it’s only her partner who matters. That’s a problem.

If the relationship ends, she’ll have nobody else left to talk to because they all went their own way. Friends can and should be able to handle less contact for a while, but you shouldn’t keep putting them on the back burner. Don’t be surprised when they create routines without you.

Leaving relationships as soon as they require compromise

Everything’s going well. That is, until someone suggests doing things differently because that’s the exact moment when she’s gone. A friend may want to change the usual meeting time or something, but she refuses to work on it. 

No, she’s decided that the relationship has become too difficult. She tells herself that she’s being independent, and sure, sometimes she is. Yet she shouldn’t be turning every call for compromise into a reason to leave. She’ll never get to the part where closeness becomes real.

Gossiping about nearly everyone she knows

Gossiping. It starts off feeling harmless, and usually it’s entertaining because she’s sharing details about the people she knows. There’s always an interesting story. Except it doesn’t take long for people to realize that she’ll talk about them eventually, too.

Such a realization makes friends share less, and family members become more careful. There might still be invitations, of course, but it’s likely that the conversations get shallower at the same time. Nobody wants to be the ammo for another conversation.

Never initiating contact

It’s not that she doesn’t want to talk or anything, obviously she does. It’s just that she’s better at replying to messages than sending them first herself, and she doesn’t suggest plans or call after bad news.

She’s basically relying on the other person to remember and do all the relationship maintenance. That’s just not fair. People get tired and busy all the time, so they stop reaching out to people who don’t seem bothered. Not exactly a great way to live.

Treating every social interaction as a performance

There’s no denying that dinner with these sorts of women can be entertaining. But that’s not the same as being human. They’ll share exciting stories and funny jokes, yet she doesn’t seem to ever bring up any awkward or ordinary parts of life. 

Every social moment is a performance for her, and that means nobody ever gets that close to her. They never find out her taste in restaurants or her best angles. They never know who she really is.

Making financial support the main way she maintains closeness

Some women use money to replace other forms of care. They’ll pay for dinner and buy expensive birthday gifts. They’ll offer money before anyone even asks and, sure, that does seem generous from the outside. Look a little closer, though.

Money shouldn’t be the only way she shows that she cares. Newsflash, relationships involve more than money, and they require closeness, for example. You know, like listening to someone’s problems and talking through them. That counts.

She refuses to maintain relationships that aren’t convenient

It doesn’t matter that a friend has only moved across town because now, she’s pretending the friend has moved to another continent. She’s not prepared to invest the time in any relationships that don’t continue to be convenient.

It’s very silly, really. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Real friendships usually go through inconvenient stretches, and that’s what makes them successful.

She ignores people whose lives become less glamorous

The fun friend gets invited everywhere, but the exhausted friend barely even gets a mention. That’s because some women enjoy being around people with lively stories and attractive photos. They quit talking to their loved ones going through it.

The person gets divorced, or they lose their job, it doesn’t matter. Now the woman’s too busy to talk to them, and they’re not able to fit them into their social calendar. People remember who disappeared when there was nothing exciting going on.

She lets pride stop her from returning

Pride is one of the worst emotions you can experience because it stops you from doing what you should. You know you were rude, and you know you should’ve done things differently. But pride stops you from doing that.

You don’t want to admit she messed up because, well, it’s too difficult to do that. So you wait for the other person to soften first, and that waiting never goes anywhere. It doesn’t take long for you to be all by yourself.

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