There are some who are harder to be around than others and it’s not always obvious why. Some behaviors are exhausting to live with, even when you might not be aware of it. Interruptions, complaints or constant demands tire people out in the long run. Those habits repel other people and make relationships even harder to maintain. Here are 10 habits that may be making you hard to handle and how they can affect others around you.
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Constant Complaining
You can exhaust people if you constantly point out the negative. Relentless complaints — about your work, the weather or small inconveniences — only create a negative vibe. As time goes on, it gets tiring for others to listen to these tirades. They might be under pressure to make you feel better or resolve your issues, which exhausts them. Try to look for solutions or be thankful for what you have.
Interrupting Conversations
If you interrupt others when they are speaking, it is a betrayal of patience and respect. It can render one’s ideas worthless. When you are constantly popping in to give your input or end someone’s sentence, it interrupts the conversation. This behavior can be exhausting because it leaves others struggling to take their turn. Actively listen to your partner and wait for him/her to finish talking before you speak up.
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Always Needing to Be Right
You can tire people out by trying to argue your case even on small issues. To insist that you’re always right is like treating discussions as wars rather than debates. People around you will be reluctant to voice their opinions as don’t want to argue. Having a more neutral mindset, being able to open up and taking into account different views can make things more pleasant.
Being Overly Dramatic
Making a small problem into a big one can be overwhelming for others. If each small inconvenience feels like a nightmare for you, people around you are walking on eggshells all the time. They may have a hard time coping with your ups and downs. It’s natural to feel upset at times – but remaining cool and observing things helps you and other people process the situation better.
Talking Too Much About Yourself
You can exhaust people if you take over the conversation and tell everyone about your life, your success or your issues. People expect to be listened to and acknowledged during a conversation, not treated like an audience. If you’re only focusing on yourself, then others will feel they do not matter and will feel left out. Instead, take interest in other people by asking them questions and hearing their stories.
Constantly Seeking Attention
Constantly being the center of attention is exhausting to others around you. Whether it’s through dramatic behavior, exaggerated stories, or fishing for compliments — this need puts pressure on others to focus on you. As time goes by, they might get burned out by your emotional demands. Recognizing when to share the spotlight and when to have quiet time can make healthier & more balanced relationships.
Being Overly Critical
You might be very hard to be around if you always pick out faults or mistakes in others. Criticizing someone’s decisions, looks, or thoughts erodes confidence and causes anxiety. They will start to stay away from you because they don’t want to be judged. It is better to give constructive feedback (if needed) than constant negative comments.
Refusing to Take Responsibility
When you blame others for your mistakes or problems, people can feel let down. If you don’t admit when you’re wrong, or just keep making excuses, people might feel like they’re carrying your burden. It makes relationships bitter and tiring. Taking ownership of your behavior shows you are mature and builds trust in you.
Holding Onto Grudges
If you are unable to forgive and keep resurfacing old issues, you’re tearing your relationships down. When you keep grudges, you carry around a lot of negative energy that no one wants to deal with. It also keeps you from moving on and having good relationships. You make your relationships better and more peaceful when you know how to let go of the past and forgive.
Being Unreliable
When people can’t count on you to follow through on commitments or show up when needed, it becomes exhausting for them. They’ll probably be under constant pressure to remind you or pick up the slack. This leads to frustration and distrust. Being honest and staying true to your word makes relationships much more pleasant for all.
Disclaimer: This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information.
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