In a recent social media post, a married woman sought advice on whether she was wrong for canceling a family trip after an unsettling discovery.
It Started Well
The original poster (OP) began by describing her three-year relationship with her husband, who had three children from a previous relationship.
OP’s daughter, aged 17, was the oldest among the siblings.
In general, OP states that her husband is a good person who prioritizes God in every aspect of life and exhibits love for everyone.
OP’s husband had recently started to complain about OP’s daughter not spending enough time with her step-siblings and himself. However, the daughter had legitimate reasons for her limited availability, including school, health issues, and work commitments.
OP maintains that her daughter still made efforts to spend time with her step-siblings despite these challenges.
Tensions Flare
One recurring source of conflict was the husband’s expectation that the daughter assume a babysitting role whenever she was with her step-siblings.
The daughter perceived this as unfair and voiced her concerns.
In response, OP’s husband accused her of making excuses to avoid spending time with his children, leading to escalating tensions.
To address the underlying issues, OP suggested a family trip as a means of fostering togetherness and understanding.
Although the husband initially liked the idea, he expressed discomfort with OP’s daughter’s attitude and proposed leaving her behind so she could enjoy having the house to herself.
OP, on the other hand, insisted that it was essential for everyone to go on the trip, dismissing the husband’s objections.
Sneaky Tactics
The situation took a drastic turn when the daughter informed OP that she couldn’t locate her passport. OP turned the whole house upside down, but couldn’t find her daughter’s passport.
Interestingly, OP’s husband proclaimed that this could be a sign from God, indicating that the trip should proceed without the daughter to avoid ruining it for everyone.
Unknown to him, OP later discovered the missing passport hidden in the husband’s office, meticulously tucked away in a drawer beneath several papers.
Reviewing the footage from an upstairs camera, OP also witnessed the husband entering her daughter’s room.
Shocked by this revelation, OP confronted her husband, who feigned ignorance about the passport’s whereabouts.
Frustrated and feeling a breach of trust, OP immediately decided to cancel the entire trip, causing a further rift between them.
OP’s husband regarded her reaction as out of proportion and tried to convince OP that he was only trying to save his kids from going through misery at the hand of OP’s daughter.
With this situation at hand, OP turned to the online community for guidance regarding her decision to call off the family trip.
Husband Exposed!
Social media users responded fervently, offering their perspectives on the situation.
Among the responses to the post, one user, Sel-Reddit, expressed concern and urged OP to reconsider her relationship.
The user bluntly remarked,
“A MAN OF GOD?! You need to stop calling him that. It’s blatantly untrue and you need to open your eyes to his ACTIONS vs. his WORDS.”
This comment highlighted the discrepancy between the husband’s purported religious devotion and his deceptive actions.
Another user, LowCharacter4037, took a strong moral stance, pointing out the gravity of the husband’s behavior.
The user stated,
“Among the variety of sins that exist, there must be a special category, somewhere near the top, for sinning by lying to your wife and blaming it on God.”
This comment emphasized OP’s husband’s breach of trust and the audacity of calling it God’s will.
Many other users shared similar viewpoints about the husband’s misuse of religion to exert control and gain an upper hand within the family dynamics.
Others, like SupremeCourtJust opined that OP’s husband has a controlling nature, stating,
“Your husband wants to control you; what you do & what you want.
Your husband wants to control your daughter; what she should be spending her time on and forcing her to do things she cannot do.
When he cannot easily do that, he uses manipulation and lying in order to accomplish it.
When he is then held responsible for his actions, he turns it around on you.
When that doesn’t work, he throws a temper tantrum.”
HailLuciferDaddy expressed concern about how OP’s daughter might be treated in the future due to her husband’s behavioral pattern.
The user commented:
“If he can’t do a simple family trip to bring y’all together and steal your daughter’s passport to keep her away, I fear what else he would be willing to do to your daughter for the sake of his own kids in the future for bigger life challenges.”
The Verdict
The original post and subsequent comments paint a picture of a deeply troubled relationship and a blatant breach of trust.
OP’s husband’s actions of hiding the daughter’s passport, coupled with his attempts to manipulate the situation, demonstrate a concerning lack of respect.
The comments from multiple users collectively highlight the misalignment between the husband’s professed religious devotion and his behavior.
They echo the sentiment that OP deserves better, urging her to reconsider her relationship and question her husband’s character.
In the end, it becomes evident that honesty, respect and open communication are vital components of any healthy relationship. Ingredients that are sorely missing in this particular relationship.
What do you think? Let us know in the comments. Do you think the OP from this social media post was wrong?
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This article originally appeared on Ash & Pri.
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