The Hangover: To Rescue or Not to Rescue Your Drunk Partner?

Man drinking at a bar, slouching on the counter.

The internet is a fascinating place where strangers come together to offer advice, opinion, and insight on everyday issues.

One such issue that recently made its way onto social media was a post by a wife who was unsure whether she was right or wrong for not rescuing her drunk husband.

The Crazy Night Out

She shared that her husband had gone out with friends and got completely wasted. At 11 pm, he called her, barely coherent and unable to tell her where he was.

The original poster (OP), who had work the next day, told him to find his friends and figure it out. She went back to sleep, leaving him to his own devices.

The husband was later found sleeping on the couch by the OP in the morning.

After that morning, things seemed to take a turn for the worse. OP noticed that he was acting distant and short with her, which was unusual for him.

Despite OP’s attempts to engage him in conversation, he remained tight-lipped and refused to talk about what had happened.

To make matters worse, he had been sleeping in the living room ever since that night, refusing to even share a bed with her. When she asked him about it, he got testy and defensive.

OP is now questioning whether she was wrong in her way of handling things.

For Better or for Worse?

Several users had differing opinions about the situation.

DrFishTaco responded to the post, blaming the OP for not rescuing her partner.

“Your partner was incapacitated, abandoned in an unfamiliar place, and under duress, but you needed your sleep.

“By all means, berate the man and his ‘friends,’ but after you get him safely in the car.”

This viewpoint was echoed by Honest_Panda198, who also believed that the wife should have helped her husband and lectured him about his drinking and wandering off later.

“This! Your partner needed you, you can lecture him later about his drinking and wandering away. But if the roles were reversed, you’d want him to get out of bed and help you.”

Another perspective is offered by TitaniaT-Rex, who suggested that the wife could have found her husband using the Find My app. According to this commenter, sharing your location with your loved ones is an excellent way to ensure that you can be found in case of an emergency.

While some people might feel uncomfortable with the idea of their partners or loved ones tracking their every move, TitaniaT-Rex believes that it is a small price to pay for safety.

“I’m a bit surprised she couldn’t find him. Do other people not have their family members on Find My? I have my kids’ location, and I would share mine with friends when going on dates. I share mine with my bf when I’m going out just in case something happens.”

Another user, Mother_of_moths, was concerned that something more sinister might have happened to the husband, given that he has been distant and upset since the incident.

“I also feel like we’re missing some info. He gets testy if OP brings it up, and he’s slept in the living room for the past several days? I’m concerned something happened when he went out that night. Maybe it already happened, and he called her because he was scared and alone. Two nights ago, I went to visit some friends who lived in the woods, and my car wouldn’t start when I tried to leave around 10:30 pm (no, I’m not in a horror movie)…”

Dontworryitsme4real was of the opinion that if you cannot depend on your partner to get you home safely, then who can you depend on? “Right? Poor planning or not, if you can’t depend on your SO getting you home safe, who can you depend on?”

Practical-Friend3576 posed a thought-provoking question, asking the wife how she would feel if the roles were reversed.

“And how would you feel OP if the shoe were on the other foot and his reaction to you was the same? I guarantee you’d be as upset as he is.”

On the other hand, Sad-Captain-7815 raises a crucial question:

“Why didn’t the husband call an Uber?”

Uber was mentioned by Anglerfishtacos as well. The comment suggested that the wife could have at least called the husband a taxi.

“For real! Even if you aren’t going to physically come get him, you at least call him an Uber and stay on the phone until he gets into the car safely. You can fuss at him for getting hammered later.”

The Verdict

The relationship between a married couple is built on care and love and the OP should have offered to help her husband arrange a ride home safely.

As one commenter, dariamorgandorfferr, puts it “So much for ‘through thick and thin’.”

The most important thing in any relationship is trust and communication. Unfortunately, in this situation, the husband’s trust in his wife was broken as she prioritized her sleep over his safety.

For any relationship to be a successful partnership, it is essential for the couple to be willing to listen to each other and support each other, even in difficult or unexpected situations.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments. Do you think OP from the social media post was in the wrong?

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