A recent post on social media has sparked a debate about whether a man is justified in giving a significant amount of money to his ex-wife with whom he shares two children.
The original poster (OP), who recently won a large sum of money, admits to having an affair that led to the divorce but acknowledges the ex-wife’s positive influence as a co-parent and person.
OP believes that sharing his lottery money with his ex-wife would be a kind of redemption showing that he isn’t that bad of a person. As per his post, the ex-wife works a low-paying job and deserves a better life for herself and their children.
Although OP has not yet discussed his plan with his ex-wife, OP has spoken to his parents and lawyer, who both support the idea.
However, OP’s current partner is upset and feels disrespected, accusing OP of still being in love with the ex-wife.
OP denies this and shares that he loves his ex-wife for being a good co-parent and mother.
The current partner is threatening to end the relationship, but OP remains committed to giving the money to his ex-wife. He also reported feeling relieved if the relationship was to end.
Many commenters on the post offered their opinions on the matter, with some saying that OP wasn’t wrong for wanting to give the money to his ex-wife to improve her and their children’s lives.
Safahri, one of the commenters, said that OP is right in his stance if his intention is to help his ex-wife and children.
But OP is wrong if he gave the money only because he still loves his ex-wife.
The user also stated that the girlfriend’s reaction was understandable since the man is giving money to another woman he used to be married to.
“The way she reacted was a little over the top, but to be expected since you are giving money to another woman (that you used to be married to).”
Hoodytwin, another commenter, said that he didn’t believe the man was wrong and that he had imagined doing the same thing if he had a windfall.
He also warned OP about his current girlfriend.
“I’ve imagined the same thing if I had a windfall. I don’t love my ex-wife by any means, but she is the mother of my children. I’m thankful that we’re amicable. I would be careful pursuing anything with the current gf. Like they say, if they cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you. Also, if she can’t understand why you’d want to give your ex money, that’s her problem to deal with. I would hope she wouldn’t be so insecure.”
You_just_never_know, another commenter, expressed that the man’s girlfriend was being childish and shared the following thoughts on the social media post:
“At the end of the day, you still shared a lot with your ex-wife and that probably intimidates your girlfriend. In my eyes, the girlfriend is being extremely childish in this situation, and the fact that you’re feeling relieved about her threats says a lot about you too.
“Perhaps it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship and just focus on giving your kids the best lives possible now that you’ve got the means to do so.”
Some users doubted the OP’s commitment to his current relationship, since he had not married his current partner yet.
1DameMaggieSmith, another commenter, expressed that not everyone needs to get married to prove the quality of a relationship, but she fully agreed with the other commenters’ suggestions that the man should give his ex-wife the money he planned to give her.
“Not everyone needs to get married to prove the quality of a relationship, but the rest I fully agree with.”
A user by the name TheKappp agreed with the other commenters’ suggestions that the man should give his ex-wife the money he planned to give her. TheKappp also said that not all relationships need to turn into marriage to be considered serious and committed.
“I agree with everything except the part about not being married to her shows how he feels about her. Not all relationships need to turn into marriage to be considered serious and committed. Some people just don’t want to get married. And some divorced people don’t want to get remarried. It doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t value their relationship.”
In summary, social media users agreed that OP is justified in giving a significant amount of money to his ex-wife after winning the lottery.
Many commenters felt that the man is not wrong for wanting to give the money to his ex-wife to improve her and their children’s lives.
Some commenters even suggested that the man should re-evaluate his relationship with his current girlfriend and focus on giving his kids the best lives possible now that he has the means to do so.
Ultimately, the decision on what to do with the money lies with the OP, and he must weigh his options carefully before making any decisions.
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