In a cozy suburban abode, a 40-year-old mother faced an intriguing parenting dilemma that unfolded within the confines of her family home.
The heart of the issue lay with the original poster’s (OP) eldest daughter, Maggie (14), whose relentless habit of slamming her bedroom door had become a source of annoyance for the entire household.
Living under the same roof were three siblings—Maggie, the responsible and helpful elder sister, along with her two younger brothers, Levi (12) and Charlie (10).
Maggie enjoyed the privilege of having her own room while the brothers shared a bedroom adjoining hers.
The problem, however, lay not in the spatial arrangements but rather in the reverberating echoes of the door’s incessant slams.
Though Maggie was undoubtedly a good kid, her door-slamming tendencies had escalated to a point of annoyance.
The slamming occurred at various times of the day, and on certain nights, it even robbed the family of their precious sleep.
The impact was particularly pronounced on her brothers, who shared a bedroom wall with her, and even on her parents, whose bedroom rested directly above hers.
OP and her husband had attempted to address the issue with diplomacy, politely asking Maggie to be more considerate of others’ sleep and well-being.
But the words seemed to slip through one ear and out the other as the slamming persisted undeterred.
OP then decided to take a firmer approach, warning her that if the slamming continued, there would be consequences.
The tipping point arrived one restless night when the entire family was jolted awake by a particularly thunderous slam from Maggie’s room.
Fatigued and at her wit’s end, OP walked to the stairs and knocked on her daughter’s door, intending to have a calm conversation about the matter.
However, she was met with an attitude-laden “WHAT?!” that tested her patience.
Summoning all her self-restraint, OP conveyed the ultimatum to Maggie: if she slammed the door one more time, it would be taken away as a consequence.
Defying the warning, Maggie not only slammed the door once but five times, fueling OP’s resolve.
The next day, with her husband’s support, OP executed the decision she had warned Maggie about.
While she was away at school, OP and her husband removed the door from its frame and replaced it with a heavy curtain on a rod, ensuring her privacy without the ability to slam.
Maggie returned home to a doorless room, and predictably, her reaction was one of outrage.
She claimed her parents were being emotionally abusive and depriving her of her right to privacy.
However, OP and her husband had thoughtfully ensured her physical privacy by hanging the curtain securely and respecting her space.
Later, OP’s mother marked the actions taken by OP and her husband as ‘uncalled for.’
OP, perturbed by her mother’s disapproval of the decision, sought validation and advice from the online community.
The social media post sparked a flurry of responses, with a wide majority of users siding with OP.
Among the first to comment was Express-Afternoon724, who strongly supported OP’s decision, stating that interrupting everyone’s sleep was unacceptable.
The user suggested a trial approach, allowing Maggie to regain her door if she refrained from slamming it for a certain amount of time.
Lumpy-Relationship17 shared a nostalgic childhood memory, recounting a friend’s father who took swift action when door-slamming became an irritating game at his house.
“I was at my best friend’s house when I was about 10. She and her twin sister were playing by their bedroom door, absolutely horsing around and slamming into the door repeatedly while playing.
“We could hear their dad from the other side of the house, saying calmly, loudly, and warningly, “Paren con la puerta” (roughly “Stop messing with the door”). Minutes go by and they keep messing, slamming into the door loudly, so we hear it again, “Paren con la puerta.” I was fully bracing at that point, looking at them in panic… and then they kick[ed] the door again.
“We hear steps, the man opens the door, lifts it right off its hinges, and walks off with the door under his arm without a word.”
This story highlighted the importance of teaching children about consequences and respecting boundaries.
DragonFireLettuce praised OP for her decision, comparing it to a “check-mate” move, where Maggie’s actions had clear consequences.
The curtain compromise provided Maggie with physical privacy, while underscoring the need for mutual respect within the family.
The user questioned why Maggie was unwilling to agree to the no-slamming rule, suggesting that her reaction could be fueled by adolescent defiance.
Brightmoon1954 shared a similar experience, revealing that they had taken the same approach with their child.
A two-week door-less period led to significant behavioral improvements, as their child realized the importance of being considerate of others.
The comment reinforced the effectiveness of actions having consequences and how this method could bring about positive changes.
Sfblue11 further emphasized the significance of consequences, applauding OP’s decision.
“It costs literally nothing to close a door properly, and at some point, her slamming the door progressed from maybe accidental to careless and then to reckless/disrespectful. She was clearly warned of what would happen.”
The user further noted that the curtain served as a reasonable compromise, ensuring Maggie’s privacy while still holding her accountable for her actions.
The commenter reasoned that Maggie had been amply warned, and the curtain offered a gentle reminder to respect boundaries.
On the other hand, Klingon80 began her comment by acknowledging her initial inclination to oppose OP’s decision.
However, upon learning about the multiple conversations and warnings given to Maggie, the user found the decision to remove the door fair.
“When she slammed the door FIVE times in quick succession, even I was ready to go take the door off.”
OP’s story serves as a stark reminder of the inherent challenges that come with being a parent.
The majority of the online community endorsed OP’s decision to remove her daughter’s room door and install a thick curtain in its place.
The consensus was that OP’s action is good for the daughter’s own well-being.
Overall, OP’s experience emphasizes the importance of teaching children to respect others and be mindful of their actions.
What do you think? Let us know in the comments. Do you think the OP from this social media post was wrong?
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This article originally appeared on Ash & Pri.
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