The experience of proposing to your significant other is often a highly anticipated and emotional event. However, for one 28-year-old man, the joy of proposing to his girlfriend of three years has been overshadowed by a confusing and hurtful incident involving a lie.
The man, let’s call him OP (original poster), usually struggles with picking out jewelry for his girlfriend. Since an engagement ring is a big deal, he sought out the help of his girlfriend’s best friend, Justine. OP says,
“I’m the type of guy that doesn’t see a problem with heart-shaped jewelry (seriously, why is it considered so ugly?), so every time I want to buy something for my girl, I usually consult one of our mutual friends.
“When it came time to pick out a ring, I consulted my girlfriend’s best friend, Justine (fake name). Justine and I are quite close, and she knows my girlfriend better than anyone, including me.”
While his girlfriend was out of town, Justine came over to help OP look through catalogs and plan a visit to a jewelry store.
However, a text from the girlfriend indicating that she was out shopping with Justine while she was at home with him has left OP feeling deeply betrayed. Although OP and his girlfriend have a strong relationship built on trust and honesty, this lie has caused him to question everything.
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OP is torn between confronting his girlfriend and keeping the truth to himself. He says,
“When she came home, she acted completely normal, and I played along, but it’s been really hard to act like everything’s fine. We got takeout, ate together, and cuddled on the couch after. So far, she’s caught on a little that something is upsetting me, but I just can’t tell her what. Looking at her kills me.”
OP feels that admitting he knew about the lie would force him to explain why he suspected it in the first place, which he is not ready to do. He’s not yet prepared to disclose that he was picking out an engagement ring for his girlfriend.
As OP struggled to come to terms with the situation, he reached out to the Reddit community seeking advice from others. He wondered if he should confront his girlfriend or try to forget about the incident altogether.
A Few Days Later…
OP shared an update on this nerve-wracking situation.
Rather than resorting to some of the lies that people suggested in his original post, OP decided to confront his girlfriend with the truth. He explained that he had invited her friend Justine to help him pick out the perfect engagement ring and asked her why she had lied about meeting up with her.
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To his relief, his girlfriend wasn’t cheating on him or picking out a ring for him, but rather she had a surprise for him. She showed him a picture of a Kenyan sand boa and told him she had planned to surprise him with a pet snake. As someone who grew up with snakes, he was overjoyed at the thought of having one as a pet.
While he did feel a little bad about ruining the surprise, he was grateful that his girlfriend wasn’t hiding anything more serious from him. In the end, the couple laughed about the misunderstanding and looked forward to picking up their new pet next week.
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All’s Well That Ends Well.
Sometimes, things don’t turn out how we expect them to, but that doesn’t mean they can’t still be good. In this case, OP resolved a potentially tricky situation with honesty. Communication is vital in any relationship; sometimes, the truth can be stranger than fiction.
You can find the original thread here and the update here.
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