Some women make dating feel a little difficult at first for a bunch of different reasons, but it turns out that these could be the best kinds of women to be in a relationship with.
The first filter
She’s got high standards. It’s a lot, to start with, because she knows exactly what she wants and when she wants it. That can be kind of difficult to accept. But it’s actually a good thing because she could encourage you to step up more as a man.
You’ll plan better and speak better around her because, well, you’ve got to. It’s not like she’s looking for a perfect guy or anything. That’d be unrealistic. She just wants a guy who’ll meet her high standards, and that could help make you into an even better guy.
The plain answer
It’s hard dealing with a woman who’s not afraid to tell the truth directly. She’s not going to beat around the bush, and she’s not going to spare your feelings when she’s being honest. Yes, you’ll know that she didn’t like the date. You’ll know when something bothers her.
But that’s a good thing because, really, it’s nice being with someone who just tells things as they are. You don’t have to waste time trying to decode anything she says. There’s never any hidden meaning or message to work out. What you see is, literally, what you get.
The full calendar
Ambitious women aren’t waiting around for a guy to message them. They’ll spend their time working late and training for something, not hoping that a guy’s going to finally respond. That’s difficult to get your head around at first.
You’re not the center of her week, after all, because she’s constantly working toward a goal. But don’t call it quits just yet. All that means is that when she does make time for you, she really means it, and she’s put a lot of effort into spending time with you. She genuinely likes you.
The clean line
It’s a little confusing when a woman refuses to play the usual dating games. You know, the ones where she’s supposed to act like she’s less interested than she really is, or somehow act busier than she really is. That’s not her.
She’ll text back as soon as she sees the message, instead of when dating rules say she ‘should’ text back. You’re dating a real adult when you’re dating her. It might not exactly be as exciting initially, sure, but trust us. You’ll appreciate the maturity.
The mirror moment
Watch what you say around her. Not because you’re meant to walk on eggshells or anything. No, it’s just that she’ll hold you accountable for your words, and when you say you’ll call her tomorrow, she expects you to do that. It’s not always fun.
She’ll keep handing your words back to you. However, it’ll force you to actually mean what you say, instead of being cute and thinking you’ll get away with that sort of behavior. Your promises have value. Kind of revolutionary, right?
The little test
You can forget all about big gestures because they’re not going to move her as much as other women. She’ll appreciate flowers and dinner, of course. But she’s not going to fall head-over-heels for a guy like that, as she’s not easily impressed.
The surface stuff for her is, well, surface stuff. She’s more interested in your behavior and the kind of person you really are than in any material gift. It makes you actually show your love in ways that don’t necessarily involve a receipt.
The second question
Hard questions are, by their very nature, hard. She’s not afraid to ask you about what you learned from your last breakup, even though you might feel awkward asking. She wants to know how you tick. Is that so bad?
She wants to know who you are under the pleasantries, and the best way to do that is by asking hard questions. Other women might be a little more subtle. But not her. She’s straight to the point, talking about challenging things, so you can both save yourselves from wasting time.
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