It doesn’t matter how often some women might deny it, there are a few things that they absolutely do and never tell anyone about.
The little check nobody names
They’ll put a story up on social media. They’ll put their phone down immediately after and say they’re not bothered, but that’s not the full story. They’ll check who’s seen their story and hope that a certain someone has.
It’s not like Instagram and Snapchat make it hard for you to check, anyway. A lot of women won’t admit it, though, because they don’t want people to know they actually care about that person’s reaction.
A receipt with a purpose
Some women claim they never keep receipts or send screenshots around because that’s what insecure women do. Except, you know, when the tone feels off, and the message they got back feels weird.
Then it’s okay to get a second, or even third, opinion. The thing is, most women already have an opinion by the time they’ve sent the screenshot to a friend, and all they’re really looking for is for someone else to agree.
The two-word shield
‘I’m fine.’ Such a short sentence, such a huge effect. It asks for nothing while hiding a lot about a woman’s mood, whether she’s feeling hungry or tired, maybe overstimulated or even annoyed. A lot of women deny being so vague.
However, they sometimes feel like saying how they truly feel would be too much, and explaining the problem would take too long. So they choose the shorter version. The one that leaves other people guessing, but she’ll say that’s how she really feels.
A scroll that starts somewhere else
Most women aren’t starting a full investigation when they look up an ex’s new girlfriend. They just look her up, almost by accident. But then they start finding out where the new girlfriend works and her pet’s social media account, as well as the names of her family members.
These women will say they don’t care, and sure, they might not care that much. Yet everyone can tell that these women are being nosy. It doesn’t take a genius to see that they’re a bit too curious about this new woman’s life.
The mirror that lives in the feed
It doesn’t matter that a woman tells other people she doesn’t compare herself to other women online. Chances are, she does. It’s completely normal, and we all do it, so there’s really no point in pretending that you don’t notice other people’s lives.
You notice their skin, and you notice their vacation pics. Women might scroll past like nothing happened, but secretly, they’re probably asking themselves if she measures up to the other woman.
The like that got noticed
Another thing she might do online involves checking likes. Yes, she tells everyone that she doesn’t check that stuff, but that’s only a half-truth because she’s actually looking for one person.
She’s hoping that he liked her gym selfie, that he liked her vacation pics. Nobody else knows except her.
Calm on the outside
She tells you that she’s ‘unbothered,’ but still, she’s checking her phone every few minutes. It’s not like she’s panicked or anything, and it’s more like she’s a little bit too available for that person. Doesn’t matter that the TV’s on.
The only screen she’s paying attention to is the 7-inch one, even though she claims that she doesn’t really care about the other person. So then why does she keep looking for a reply?
The compliment dodge
There’s really no use in giving some women a compliment because they’ll bat it away each time. You tell her she looks good? Apparently, her dress is ancient.
You tell her that her makeup looks good? Apparently, she just woke up.
But they heard the comment, and they’ll repeat it to themselves later when nobody’s around. They deny in public that they care about compliments. Yet, like the rest of us, they really do.
A small green moment
Jealousy never sounds good, and women understand that. It’s one of the reasons why they’ll straight-up reject the idea that they’re jealous, even though their actions say something different. They’ll ask questions about the woman at work, and another, and another.
All in a normal voice, of course. The truth is that she doesn’t want a fight, but she does want to understand whether there’s anything to worry about, in a less direct way.
The group chat exception
So many women say that they don’t like to gossip. They’re probably right. Still, they do it anyway, and they’ll share intimate details with other people, not thinking that it counts as gossip. How do they justify it?
By saying that they’re only telling a friend, and not posting it online. Newsflash, that’s still gossip. Sharing one secret with other people is one thing, yes, but telling your entire friend group is something else.
The menu trap
Comments like ‘I don’t care where we eat’ should come with a legal disclaimer, honestly, because she usually doesn’t mean it. Maybe she doesn’t want to choose the restaurant. But that doesn’t mean she has no opinions at all, and she’ll make sure you understand that.
Women who say this usually claim that they’re not being difficult, but they are. It’s okay, though. Some people are better at deciding what they want by rejecting the options put to them.
The voice tells on it
Some women will say that they’re not mad. Yet it’s pretty clear that they are, whether it’s because their tone is a little flatter or their sentences have become a lot shorter. Or worse, they become overly polite.
Their whole attitude has changed, and they tell other people they’re not like that. But they are. They might be buying some time by saying they’re not mad, or they might be using it as a warning sign, either way, it’s there.
The soft opening
Right before some women are about to say something dramatic, you can guarantee she’ll probably say one thing. She’ll say she’s not trying to start drama. The thing is, that phrase doesn’t actually mean what you might think, and it’s more like a warning to everyone to buckle up.
The woman saying it might genuinely believe she’s giving some context instead of creating chaos. She does it anyway, however, and everyone in the room knows that they’re in for a performance.
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