These twelve weird signals will show you if a woman is attracted to you. Science says they’re true.
Adjusting personal space
Attraction makes a woman’s brain hyper-aware of how her stuff is placed in relation to yours.
Rather than casually placing her purse on a chair next to her, she’ll shuffle things around you both, adjusting a glass of water, moving her purse across the chair, or tapping her phone in slow motion on the table, reducing space between the two of you. Or she’ll leave an object directly on your space boundary, such as her keys.
Studies on body language and personal space have discovered that we manipulate objects around us to non-verbally communicate openness and check comfort levels.
Mimicking
Perhaps she repeats a word you poorly pronounced seconds ago, or the pace of her speech begins to slow down to match yours halfway through a sentence.
This is called synchronization and it’s a physical reaction to someone your brain deems attractive.
When we like someone, we mirror their speech to subconsciously connect and sync with them on a faster level, minimizing social defenses.
Acting suddenly awkward
She can be confident around all other people. But then she meets a guy she likes and acts strangely awkward.
She may trip over her words, giggle at a joke that isn’t funny, lose her train of thought, or suddenly clam up. Even telling him something and then immediately correcting herself.
Why does this happen? When she’s around someone attractive to her, she can become more aware of herself. She may suddenly notice how she looks, sounds, or comes across. And this makes an otherwise easy conversation feel extremely awkward.
However, this doesn’t mean she did this once around you and she’s attracted to you. But if you notice a confident woman suddenly turning super awkward around you time and time again, it may be a sign.
Fumbling with her hands
Dropping her keys, fixing her necklace or cuff repeatedly, or flattening out her skirt might be signals she’s aroused as you’re looking at her.
Whenever we become aroused, our sympathetic nervous system sends extra adrenaline to our body. Our heart quickens and we experience tiny lapses in motor control on our hands and fingers.
Research on non-verbal stress cues reveals that women often channel that extra nervous energy into harmless grooming behaviors and unconscious finger movements when they’re with a man they find appealing.
Finding reasons to touch
Instead of simply planting a firm hello hug on you, she might brush off a piece of lint on your shirt, compare hands or brush up against you while passing in a crowded area.
These casual touches let her gauge your interest without the awkwardness of an out-of-the-blue grab.
Psychology research indicates that using low-risk, task-focused touch is the main way people gauge a potential partner’s receptiveness before moving toward romance.
Playfully competitive
Whether it be arguing about who can finish a whole cookie first or challenging you to a race of who can name the most video game characters, unexpected bouts of competition are great ways to flirt with high intensity.
Light-hearted competition raises both adrenaline and dopamine in your body which can trick you into feeling enamored. And this allows you to make extended eye contact and joke around with each other.
Studies have shown that fake competition allows people to test each other’s emotional jabs, display confidence, and increase tension without the fear of penalty.
Looking away and smiling
Observe the smile that follows when you meet her gaze.
Lots of women maintain eye contact when flirting, but if you catch someone looking at you and they quickly look away followed by a shy grin, that pause before they look away was them experiencing a split-second of social anxiety from getting caught looking. The smile? They’re feeling good about themselves.
Flirtologists widely recognize the look-away smile as a top-tier attraction signal, effectively communicating a mix of submission and keen interest.
Delaying her goodbye
Groups have a set end time, when everyone knows they need to leave. But if she wants to see you alone, she’ll find reasons to stay.
Maybe she takes forever to gather her things, suddenly recalls something trivial to discuss, or ambles slower when walking beside you. She’s creating extra time between you two to separate from the group, and continue your conversation one-on-one.
Observational data on social exits suggests that people tend to prolong their goodbyes when they’re reluctant to break contact with someone they find appealing.
Teasing later
Let’s say you happen to remark that you found Avatar to be pretty silly. She’ll mention it to you days later just to mock you about it.
The girl knows how to target her teasing. She paid attention to little details about you and she’s using that private information to build inside jokes that only you two will understand.
Studies show playful, personal teasing is used heavily to develop a relationship’s sense of intimacy.
Raising and softening her voice
Notice the difference in how she speaks to everyone else in the room versus how her voice sounds when she speaks only to you.
Females naturally and unconsciously increase their pitch and speak softer and in a warmer tone when talking to a male they’re attracted to.
Evolutionary acoustic studies show that when a female’s voice is higher in pitch, it signals subtle hormonal changes and is universally regarded as being warm, feminine, and inviting.
Loving your lame jokes
When you tell a joke that doesn’t get any reaction from anyone else in the room, she will laugh easily or throw out a leading question that encourages you to keep talking.
When a woman’s attracted to you, her mind tends to find everything you say more amusing and engaging.
Studies prove that when we want others to like us we tend to over-confirm and offer more positive social reinforcement.
Vulnerable stories
Sharing an embarrassing moment, stupid mistake or weird childhood story can feel surprisingly personal, especially when two people have only recently met.
If a woman has strong chemistry with you, she’ll want to skip past formal small talk and connect on a genuine level as soon as possible.
Psychological studies have shown that selective self-disclosure is one of the strongest signs of attraction women use knowingly to make their partners feel safe and open up.
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