When you’re real, there’s an aura about you that is attractive as hell to the right man.
Freedom factor
Letting him have his alone time without a fuss is a huge plus in his eyes. When you have other things going on outside of your relationship, it lets him know that he’s not your whole world.
By not reacting when he asks for space, you earn trust faster than you can imagine, which will cause him to run back to your arms quicker than before.
A foundation of this nature, according to research, is what fosters the most solid and lasting connections between adults.
Drama detox
As many great men are turned off by women with drama, they will subconsciously take notice when you communicate in a calm manner.
Telling him what you need, instead of jumping all over him emotionally, is what we call being non-reactive. This allows him to know that even when the going gets tough, you have the tools to keep your emotions in check and solve the problem at hand.
This kind of emotional intelligence is actually considered the top trait men look for in a woman when looking for a wife or life partner.
Hidden worlds
There is honestly nothing hotter than a woman who loves to spend her free time doing things that don’t involve you.
Whether that be her career, girlfriends, or a hobby, letting him know that you have fun without him will give him the permission to have fun with you.
The reason most men are attracted to women who have an amazing life outside of their relationships is because you don’t hold him accountable for your own happiness.
Men love feeling wanted, but by creating this natural push and pull with him, you’ll stay attractive for years to come.
Brain sparks
It’s a fact that many men are into attractive women who can also engage in meaningful conversations.
Topics such as history, science, etc., allow you to show your partner that you will never run out of things to talk about.
Trust me when I say, men notice if you’re boring, and they’ll find it hard to stay committed to someone who has nothing to stimulate their mind.
Bounce back
Every time you face a setback or challenge, do you pout about “why me?” or do you dive into problem-solving mode?
A woman with a growth mindset doesn’t make a habit of complaining. They’re simply interested in fixing the issue and moving forward.
This tells him that you’re a strong person who doesn’t view life’s challenges as an inconvenience, but an opportunity to become stronger.
Quiet grace
Do men pick up on your compassion by watching your interactions with others?
When you’re shopping at the grocery store, how do you treat the cashier? How do you speak to the guy pumping your gas when there are no friends around to hear?
People with character display moments of kindness when they know no one is around to witness it. Seeing a woman treat everyone with consistent kindness assures a man that she’ll offer him the same support during hard times.
Recent studies also show how this prosocial behavior triggers a biological response in men that you’d make a good mother and fair partner.
No masks
We all want to put our best face forward when we meet someone new. But, the woman who is willing to be vulnerable enough to admit when she’s wrong or tell the truth, is someone most men won’t forget.
She’s a pretty open book, and that’s a good thing.
When you’re always honest with your partner, he’ll never have to question what you’re really thinking. Plus, men understand that trust is absolutely essential for a solid relationship.
Chosen company
Men notice who you hang around with. Having supportive people around you means you don’t accept bad behavior.
Through this, he can see a snapshot of the family you might build with him. Social psychologists tell us that we become the average of the five closest people we spend time with. A smart guy realizes this principle applies to the woman he might marry.
Little cheers
High-value guys are usually go-getters and love being around a woman who notices and appreciates the small steps they are taking toward their goals.
When you honestly get excited over a small victory at his job or personal goal he accomplished at the gym, he feels understood.
This is called “active-constructive responding” by researchers at the Gottman Institute, and it’s one of the single greatest behaviors that couples use to stay together.
Firm lines
This may sound backwards, but hear me out. Women who are scared to say “no” or “I can’t” or “that doesn’t work for me” are far more attractive than women who don’t establish and hold strong boundaries.
Boundaries communicate to a man that you have respect for yourself. And he can’t fully respect you until he understands that you have a line that nobody will be able to cross.
He feels secure knowing you won’t let things fester, but will address issues directly.
Own the joke
If you can’t laugh with your partner every once in a while, then life is going to feel like one big stressful nightmare.
A woman who can poke fun at herself demonstrates humility and a healthy ego, which makes for easier living.
Humor is also one of the biggest signs of cognitive flexibility. What is that? It’s the ability to look at any situation from different perspectives.
And cognitive flexibility is a must for any type of long-term relationship.
Inner glow
I’m talking about you exuding the energy that you care about yourself enough to better your health, your mind, and your living space.
When you respect yourself, you set the standard for how others (including your boyfriend) can treat you. You instantly tell a man that you aren’t searching for him to complete you or save you, because your life is already under control.
A man who takes pride in himself will be attracted to a woman who does the same thing, and it also shows that your lifestyles will be compatible.
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