It’s not like your girlfriend is giving her friends a full report about you, but there are some private details she might be sharing that could surprise you.
The little review
There’s no guarantee that she’ll talk about what happens between the sheets, but if she does, it’s not going to be as detailed as you think, she’s got more class than that. She’ll say things like, ‘He’s sweet but quiet,’ or maybe ‘He tries, but he needs hints.’
She’ll likely talk in broad strokes about how you are in the bedroom, without saying anything too explicit. The general temperature of everything, that’s all, although it’s still kind of private.
The minute after
Let’s not forget about what happens afterward because that’s where a lot of women review guys, too, even if they don’t say it openly. Whether you cuddle, need water, need your phone, the bathroom, silence, all of it becomes a topic of conversation.
Not because she’s trying to spread gossip or anything, it’s just that she wants to share her feelings about the whole thing. If you’re the kind of guy who just rolls over afterward, rest assured, all her friends will know that, too.
When the room is empty
Being charming in public is one thing because, the truth is, you might be completely different behind closed doors. Or maybe you’re the opposite, you keep your distance in public, but you’re all about physical touch at home. It doesn’t matter, really.
She’ll tell her friends about how affectionate you are when no one’s watching so they get a better idea of how you really are. Don’t take it as a bad thing, that’s not what she’s trying to do. She just wants to talk about your true self.
The little routine
Dating happens at very close range, so it makes sense women talk about hygiene habits with their friends. You know, what your breath is like, how you smell, how often you clean your sheets, she’ll say it all.
It’s definitely not glamorous, but it’s certainly the real version of you, and she’s happy to share that with her friends. Yes, that means her friends will know how often you shower, and yes, they’ll know if you smell good afterward.
The first clue
Kissing. It’s one of those things many women talk about early on because it’s something that’s kind of meaningless until it’s bad. Too much tongue or no rhythm, dry kisses only or too much teeth, all of these are issues, and all of them get discussed.
It’s likely that she’ll tell a friend about them after the second date, before she’s even figured out what the relationship is. It makes sense, though, because kissing helps people judge romantic suitability, so she’s really just trying to figure out how she feels about you. That’s all.
The tiny switch
An ick is usually something so small that it’s not evil, not even a dealbreaker, either, but just enough to make her vent. Maybe you clap when the plane lands, maybe you say ‘expresso,’ it doesn’t really matter, honestly.
She’s going to share the ick with her friends, and probably vent about it, too. She likes you, of course she does, but she can’t help wondering why you have this icky habit, too.
The soft spot
It surprises her. The thing makes you cry; it surprises her, mostly because a lot of guys, rightly or wrongly, don’t cry in front of their girlfriends, so it’s a big deal when it happens. She’ll tell her friends what the exact reason was.
It’s not because she’s trying to make fun of you, she’s not that kind of person, it’s because she wants people to know that you are human. She wants people to know there’s a different side to you that a lot of people don’t get to see.
Behind the closed door
You can pretty much guarantee that, yes, she’s going to mention what you guys argued about in private, although it’s mainly because she’s trying to replay it. She’ll do a play-by-play with her friends to figure out who was at fault.
Who knows? Her friends might even be on your side, so it’s not necessarily a bad thing for her to share those intimate details. However, they could end up being against you, there’s a very real chance of that, too.
The planned part
Newsflash, putting effort into a relationship involves a lot more than roses and dinner reservations. Women are well aware of that, and they’ll make sure to tell their friends exactly how much effort you put into things, including where you might fall short.
They can’t help it, really, it’s natural for their friends to ask things like, ‘So what did he do?’ She might simply respond with, ‘He tries,’ or she might go into specific details about exactly what you do or don’t do well at in the relationship.
Too soon or just right
She may laugh about how quickly you got attached at first, but the thing is, she’s probably asking her friends about it when you’re not there. She wants to know whether it’s cute that you already missed her, and whether it’s okay that you remember details about her so fast.Â
There’s no nastiness or anything, she’s definitely not trying to judge you, that’s for sure. She tells her friends the timeline because they help her figure out what’s acceptable and unacceptable.
The sideways glance
It’s so easy to share details about a guy who’s jealous but pretending not to be, as the signs are so obvious. No, being ‘just curious’ about a guy from work wasn’t subtle, and no, asking her a few ‘little’ questions wasn’t harmless.
She tells her friends about how you behaved because she’s confused. Was it flattering or annoying? Funny or a red flag? Her friends will help her get to the bottom of it all, and you can’t really blame a woman for wondering.Â
The private vote
It’s a fact, her friends will know whether you seem like boyfriend material, even though she probably didn’t speak to you directly about it. They’ll know if she sees you as a short-but-sweet relationship or something that could blossom into something more long-lasting.
She’ll talk about it with them so that she can figure out where her own head is with it all. It’s a lot easier to understand your own feelings when you’ve got people to dissect them with you.Â
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