There are so many white lies that women tell, and the funny thing is, you don’t really notice them until one little detail gives the whole thing away.
It always looks like this
Anytime that you go over to her place, it all looks perfect. Suspiciously perfect, in fact. She’ll say that she ‘just tidied a little,’ but the phrase ‘a little’ is doing a lot of work here. It might’ve involved vacuuming and wiping every surface, as well as stuffing random objects into one drawer.
She might’ve changed the sheets and lit a candle, too. Admitting all that effort would make the visit sound like an event, so it’s better to pretend this is simply how the apartment always looks. He probably won’t have any idea that she’s lying about her effort.
The surprise face
The surprise was basically over before it started. Yes, she saw the reservation and noticed the gift bag. She knew something was coming when he asked about her plans, but she’s happy to play along. She’ll lie and act as though none of that happened.Â
Giving a big reaction to the surprise is a lot kinder than telling a guy, ‘Yeah, I figured this out yesterday.’ Some women lie about a romantic surprise because it gives the guy something to work with. She knew all along, though.
The five-minute version
Forget what she says about ‘just throwing something on,’ because it’s very unlikely to be true. There were probably two rejected tops on the bed and a quick hair redo. She likely touched up her makeup more than once, too.
But admitting all that to a guy can make the evening feel more serious than she wants it to. It also makes her seem more invested than she’s ready to share right now. So she lies. She’ll pretend she hasn’t put much time or effort into it, even though she has.
Apparently, it’s always been there
She’ll claim that the jacket she’s wearing is old. It’s practically ancient, really. The fact that it somehow still has perfect folds from the store isn’t important. She just wants you to think her new purchase is something she’d had forever because she doesn’t feel like explaining it.
It’s pretty common to hide purchases, and it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s some giant money secret. Sometimes she just wants the new thing without the conversation that comes with it. It’s a fairly harmless lie, all in all.
Whatever works
The thing with ‘Wear whatever you want’ is that, yes, it can be technically true, but it also can sometimes be not true. She may genuinely want a guy to choose for himself. Yet she’s still hoping he doesn’t pick that one shirt and that he dresses himself in the way she wants him to.
But she’s not going to say any of that. No, keeping quiet is the best option because openly choosing his clothes would come across as annoying, or worse, controlling. She’ll silently hope that he’ll reach for the jacket she likes anyway.
The very casual reply
A guy finally messages a woman, and she answers twenty minutes later. She’ll say it’s because she ‘just happened’ to see it, but the truth is, she probably checked her phone six times before. She likely put the phone down and then picked it straight back up to check again.
None of that leaves a trace, and that’s why she’s fine to tell a little white lie about it. He won’t see her waiting around unless he’s standing right next to her. Saying ‘just saw this’ leaves very little for him to question.
Anywhere sounds good
You can try asking a woman, ‘What should we have for dinner?’ You’ll likely get a reply of, ‘I don’t mind,’ followed by reasons why a lot of places wouldn’t work. Mexican is too heavy, and you had pizza yesterday, for example. Sushi doesn’t sound right.Â
As for that Italian place, well, it’s too loud. It turns out that she had a preference all along. She simply wanted to avoid saying it directly because she doesn’t want to choose every time or seem fussy. It’s easier to let him suggest things until he gets to the right one.
That name means nothing
You might notice this one when you mention a woman from work. She responds with a blank look and asks, ‘Who?’ It’s totally possible that she forgot who that work friend was, but it’s also possible that she remembers their name and their photo.Â
She might remember everything about this female friend. Yet she’s unlikely to volunteer that information because it’d sound like she’s been keeping tabs. That’s not the kind of impression she wants to give off. So she plays unfamiliar, especially since there’s no easy way to check what somebody remembers anyway.
Totally fine with her
Listen carefully to how she describes your female friends, too. She might say she thinks they’re ‘nice’ or ‘funny,’ but without giving many details. The truth is, she might find your friend annoying, or maybe the closeness bothers her a little.Â
She doesn’t want to seem like a jealous woman, though. It’s better to keep things pleasant and ask polite questions so that you think she’s fine with them. You see two women getting along and figure there’s nothing there. She’s already decided she’d rather not invite the friend to dinner.
A sudden new favorite
Some movies feel like relationship homework. A guy puts on the one he’s been talking about for weeks and settles in, ready to watch. He’s enjoying it. She’s not, not even a little. But saying out loud that she doesn’t like the film would turn movie night into a whole thing, so she nods along.
She says it was good, and maybe she even picks a favorite scene afterward. A lot of women would rather avoid an awkward conversation by lying about their opinions. They don’t want to talk about why the second hour of the film felt like three.
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