If you’re trying to get a woman to miss you, it has a lot less to do with playing hard to get and more to do with creating some ordinary moments together that’ll make her think of you when you’re not around.
Know when to call it a night
It’s hard to end a great date when you’re both having a good time. But you still have to do it. When you drag it out so much that you start yawning, that’s not going to make it seem romantic. Try to say goodbye while you’re both still enjoying yourselves.
You could end it after a final drink or a walk home, for example. Yes, it might feel a little early, but that’s fine, because a nice, clean ending beats one that drags on. Give her a pleasant final memory with a lovely goodbye. That way, she’ll have a reason to wish you’d stayed longer.
Give a familiar song a new meaning
Music has a way of bringing up memories that you haven’t thought about in years. You can use that to your advantage. Whenever you’re doing something with her, like cooking dinner or going on a road trip, put on a playlist, and make sure it includes some of her favorite tracks.
Don’t declare any of them your official couple’s song or anything. That’d be too much. Instead, let some of the songs become part of your time together because, when she listens to them later, she’ll remember that moment with you.
Give her an experience to look forward to
Being available every Friday night is one thing. But having tickets to a show she’s been talking about is something better. Try to find something that she’d genuinely enjoy doing with you, and then mention it a few days before you plan to go.
It doesn’t have to be anything too expensive, as a simple visit to a bakery she likes might do. The goal here is to give an experience that she can anticipate. It’ll allow her to spend the days beforehand thinking about what you’ll do together, rather than wondering whether you’re free.
Give the conversation room to breathe
We’ve all been there before. Our phones buzz, and we reply to the message, then five minutes later, we’re looking for another reason to message the other person. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a conversation. But there’s no need to keep one going all afternoon.
If you’ve already had a nice conversation, put your phone away and get on with whatever you’re doing, rather than trying to stretch out the discussion. You might find out that she starts sending you updates herself and makes conversation with you. That’s because she misses you.
Make room for her next invitation
You might’ve noticed that, after three dates in a row, you’ve organized every single one. Perhaps you should let her choose the next outing, and you could mention something about wanting to see her again. Then ask what she’d like to do.
She might suggest going for dinner at her favorite restaurant, or maybe she’ll invite you along to something she’s already planning. The event itself doesn’t matter. What’s important is that she gets to suggest meeting up herself, and she acts on her own desire to spend time with you. She’s not simply agreeing to another invitation.
Leave behind a little reminder
A physical possession has more of an emotional impact than any kind of text message. So, you should try to give her something to hold onto when you’re not there. For example, maybe she’s cold during a movie night. Lend her your sweater and tell her she can give it back when you meet again.
She’ll be happy to have that clothing around later, and she’ll remember you when you’re not there. Best of all, smell is the best sense for memory. You’re giving her something that literally has your scent in it, and she’ll find it very hard not to miss you when she gets a whiff.
Let her miss your evening conversations
You might spend every night talking to each other on the phone. It’s time for you to occasionally skip it. Make plans with a friend, and let her know beforehand that you won’t be able to talk tonight.
She’ll spend an evening without this regular habit, and that might make her miss it more. She’ll now have to wait until tomorrow to tell you all the things she’d normally tell you. In other words, she’ll be even more excited to hear your voice again.
Make her favorite meal together
Her favorite dish will likely taste a lot better when you’ve made it together. Of course, that does depend a little on your cooking skills. You should still try making it together, though, and let her handle the parts she enjoys while you deal with the rest.
When she eats the same meal by herself later on, the familiar smell might bring back memories of cooking with you. The smell of the cooking will probably remind her of your evening together, and she’s almost guaranteed to miss you.
Save a few stories for when you’re together
Something funny or interesting happened. You might feel like texting her about it immediately, but you should try to resist that temptation. Save the stories for when you meet. Tell her that you’ve got a funny story to tell her later, without telling her what it is.
She’ll be curious about what happened, and she’ll really want to see you. You’ve opened the loop of conversation with her, and now she’ll miss being with you because she’ll want to close that loop.
Put your next meeting on the calendar
One of the most important things you should do is agree on a specific time to meet up again. Don’t make some vague promise about meeting again sometime, and instead, settle on something specific before saying goodbye. Pick a day and decide what you’re doing.
If you do this, you’ll give her something enjoyable to anticipate, and she might spend the next few days thinking about the date itself. She won’t need to wonder when she’ll see you again. No, she’s able to simply look forward to your meeting, and that’s kind of nice.
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