10 typical things pick-me girls tend to say

Here are ten things that, while not a guarantee, are pretty common things that pick-me girls say.

‘I’m not like other girls’

You won’t hear them say, ‘I’m not like other girls,’ out of nowhere. It’s during those moments when she’s trying to separate herself from other people. But she won’t say exactly why. Of course, being different isn’t an issue. It’s making a comparison out loud that’s a problem.

Pick-me girls just want approval. How do they get that? By distancing themselves from other women. So, instead of explaining what makes them so great, they’re drawing a line. It’s ‘me’ versus ‘them.’

‘I just get along better with guys’

Here’s a similar one. Pick-me girls love telling people, ‘I just get along better with guys.’ They’ll say it with some sort of explanation. For example, how guys are easier or less dramatic. However, they’re not really trying to be neutral about friendship.

They don’t even care that much about having friends. What really matters to them is making themselves seem better. In their eyes, male friendships are part of their identity. They want to use it to lift themselves up.

‘Girls are too much drama for me’

These kinds of girls will say, ‘Girls are too much drama for me,’ like it’s obvious. They don’t usually have a story to go with it. No, they’d rather paint the whole group one way. The goal is, as always, to get approval.

They’re making all girls seem the same. That way, they can draw attention to how different they are. Or at least how different they claim they are. The truth is, nobody really likes drama, and that includes most women. 

‘I hate drama’

Another one like this is, ‘I hate drama.’ Saying it once isn’t too bad. But repeating it all the time, especially after making comments about other women being difficult? That’s an issue. Honestly, having to tell other people you don’t like drama says a lot.

It sort of makes it seem as though you actually like it. After all, most people don’t have to say they don’t like drama. It’s a given.

‘I eat way more than other girls’

Just wait until you go for a meal with these girls. They’ll tell you, ‘I eat way more than other girls.’ A simple, ‘I’m hungry’ would’ve been enough. But these girls are desperate to make comparisons to know how much better they are. 

They make eating into something that, somehow, makes them stand out. Other girls? They’re careful. They’re restrained. However, these girls just have to tell you that it’s not like them.

‘I don’t get why girls are so emotional’

Forget what they tell you. They’re not actually confused when they say, ‘I don’t get why girls are so emotional.’ All they’re trying to do is to repeat the idea of women being more emotional, even though they’re women themselves.

The evidence doesn’t support it. But these girls will keep repeating this line. It’s one that already sounds familiar and doesn’t need much explanation. That’s why pick-me girls love using this line so much.

‘Girls always get jealous of me’

There’s no point in expecting stories or names. These girls will straight-up tell you, ‘Girls always get jealous of me for no reason.’ Not having an explanation is sort of the reason. All they’re trying to do is focus on how other women react.

The girl herself? She’s at the center of it all. But, obviously, she has nothing to do with it. She’s just so perfect that every other woman can’t help being jealous of her. It’s another form of comparison that this kind of woman loves. 

‘‘I’d rather stay in than go out’

Lots of people like staying at home. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, saying, ‘I’d rather stay in than go out partying like most girls’ isn’t that harmless. Now, the focus has shifted from what you like to do. The whole point is about being different while you’re doing it.

These women seem to think they’re better than other women. They want others to believe they’re superior for one reason, and one reason only. They like to stay indoors. That’s not something worth bragging about. 

‘I don’t even try and guys still notice me’

If there’s one thing this kind of woman loves, it’s male attention. She’ll say, ‘I don’t even try and guys still notice me,’ to prove that. Yes, she might say it casually. But her goals are clear. For her, the most important part is getting male attention. 

Secondly, she wants everyone to know about that. She probably does try to get guys to notice her. Even if she doesn’t, why bring it up? What point is she trying to prove? There isn’t one. It’s just for male attention.

‘I’d rather play video games than do my makeup’

By itself, saying ‘I’d rather play video games than do my makeup’ sounds like a preference. The issue is that pick-me girls don’t usually say it alone. They’ll frame it like a comparison. In their eyes, these two hobbies cancel each other out.

They’re deliberately comparing their stereotypical male interests to stereotypical female ones. Why? Because they’re trying to show how much better they think they are. They’re not like other girls, after all.

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