It’s not always easy figuring out whether a man is worth dating, but the way he deals with ordinary situations tells a woman quite a lot about him.
Keeping his word
It’s not a big deal when a guy is late occasionally. It happens to us all, and unexpected things have a way of occurring at the exact wrong time. But there’s a big difference between getting stuck in traffic and not bothering to tell a woman that you’re running behind.
How much a guy respects a woman’s time tells her a lot. She’ll know whether he actually values her schedule, or if he assumes she’ll drop everything when he’s free. She has her own life to get on with, after all, and she’ll know if he’s someone worth pursuing.
When plans fall apart
The tiniest inconveniences are the ones that many women pay close attention to. Take, for example, a dinner reservation that gets canceled. It’s not exactly the end of the world, but it’s annoying enough that a woman can learn a lot from a guy’s reaction.
He might start arguing with the restaurant staff after the reservation is canceled. Perhaps he tries to look for somewhere else to eat instead. His reaction can give a woman an idea of how he handles small inconveniences and how he might respond to bigger problems.
After the excitement settles
He might’ve sent many thoughtful messages when the two of them first met. He might’ve sent her texts about all the places he wanted to take her. But after the third date, he stops making an effort, and that tells a woman quite a lot.
She’ll know how consistent or inconsistent he’d be if they were in a relationship. A guy who’s genuinely interested will still want to spend time together and follow through on plans. A guy who stops making an effort after a few dates might not be worth staying with.
His own little world
Having friends and hobbies outside a relationship is healthy. Most women are going to want to be with guys who have their own life outside of a relationship, as these kinds of guys aren’t going to depend on a partner for everything.
They won’t need to spend every spare moment with the women they’re dating. It’s also quite nice being with someone who has things to talk about that don’t involve the relationship. A woman will know if a man’s worth her time based on how much of a life he has outside their relationship.
Taking care of business
There are so many boring responsibilities that come from being an adult, like paying bills and remembering when the car needs servicing. Women aren’t expecting men to have every single detail figured out, of course. They know that life is never that easy.
But what matters is whether he’s making an effort to manage his own affairs, rather than expecting someone else to sort them out. The truth is, the majority of women aren’t interested in becoming a man’s personal assistant. They want a guy who takes responsibility for his own life.
No guessing games
It’s totally normal to ask someone who you’ve been dating for a while, ‘Where is this going?’ But with some guys, getting a straight answer becomes an impossible task, and women aren’t interested in that. They want someone who makes it clear whether he’s looking for something casual or a serious relationship.
Either one is fine. They just want a guy who’s upfront about what he’s looking for, and women dislike guys who keep avoiding conversations about what they want. They know there’s no point in wasting time on a relationship like that.
The friendship question
A woman shouldn’t have to answer twenty questions about a male friend, just because she’s going out for drinks with him. Yet some guys behave that way. They get jealous of every other guy in the life of the woman they’re dating.
They’ll ask how long the woman and man have been friends. They’ll ask whether the two have dated, and who else will be there. Asking questions isn’t exactly a major issue, but a man’s reaction to a woman having male friends says a lot. She’ll know if it’s worth continuing things or not.
Conversations about other women
The way a man talks about women matters, too. For example, his female coworker might get promoted, and then he has plenty to say about how she doesn’t deserve the position. It’s funny because he only had praise for the last guy who got promoted.
Women pay attention to how a guy talks about women who’ve made decisions he doesn’t agree with, too. Sure, he might treat his potential girlfriend wonderfully. But the fact that he has such negative opinions about other women says a lot.
What stays between friends
It doesn’t feel good to hear the details of someone else’s personal life from a man you’ve only just met. Some guys will share these details anyway. Yes, they’re quite open with the things that someone else told them in confidence, and these guys turn the story into dinner conversation.
That kind of behavior lets a woman know how much he’ll protect her privacy in a relationship, or whether he won’t even bother trying to keep things private. She’ll know that he has some loose lips.
Sources: Please see here for a complete listing of all sources that were consulted in the preparation of this article.
If a woman does these 11 things without being asked, she’s definitely worth the chase
There are some little things that, while they might be small, are very hard to ignore when someone does them without asking.
If a woman does these 11 things without being asked, she’s definitely worth the chase
