As soon as a woman begins to envision a future with you, she instantly begins following a different set of dating rules.
Late viewing
If she likes you, she might even stop liking your photos or not watch your stories immediately after you post them.
She can be a little nit picky about not appearing too eager or responsive.
She may wait hours to look at a post she saw when it was published, just so she doesn’t seem eager to view it. Even so, she’s likely peeked at your Instagram story multiple times in the background without you realizing it.
Coincidental picks
Women will randomly become specialists on the obscure interests you have.
She’ll bring up that one podcast, brand of socks, coffee shop, or movie that you mentioned once, one month ago. She’ll act like she just discovered it herself, exclaiming, “I just found this, we absolutely need to chat about it!”
It’s her way of showing that she was listening when you spoke, but she doesn’t want you to know she’s memorizing your every word. She’ll casually weave details about your life into chats to see if you pick up on them.
Energy match
She’ll start mirroring your body language, though maybe not quite as obviously.
If you lean back in your chair, she’ll either lean back 10 seconds later or begin saying words the exact way you do (words you don’t pick up from anyone else).
Ever heard of limbic synchrony? That’s what’s happening. This body language move is her way of helping you get better at small talk if you struggle.
It fosters a subconscious feeling of being alike, solidifying your belief that this connection is meant to be.
Circle check
Months before you ever meet her best friends, she has already run you through a “tell me about this person you like” vibe check.
She told her girlfriends some weird, slightly embarrassing story about you. If her friends, who are not blinded by Cupid’s Arrow, don’t give any negative feedback, then she’ll assume it’s safe to proceed.
By the time you meet these girlfriends, they already know your life story, your favorite food, and your biggest pet peeve.
Text pacing
She may literally be holding her phone when your message pops up, but chances are she’ll wait until exactly the right time to reply.
She’s not playing games; she’s simply trying to sync up her texting pace with yours. She’s paying close attention to how long your messages are and how quickly you reply, so she knows how much effort to invest.
If you reply within an hour, she’ll shoot back forty-five minutes later. Even the emotional feel of your chat stays within the boundaries you create.
Soft confessions
Your conversations will move past where most guys get intimidated.
She’s going to let something tiny about herself haunt you, like a small secret that makes her slightly embarrassed or an inconsequential weakness she has. She’s testing you to see how you deal with heavy topics.
If you handle this small test with empathy instead of changing the subject, she’ll continue to let you into deeper levels of her life. In essence, she’s figuring out if you’re guarded or truly ready for a relationship.
Indirect questions
She isn’t going to ask you about your last relationship or how much money you make. She’ll tell you about her ex or her past job and wait for you to disclose the same information.
Unsolicited honesty is what she’s after. By not asking you direct questions, she can learn about you without you knowing it.
She’s incredibly sharp and can spot a fib by noticing what you conveniently omit from your narratives.
Digital signals
Since she knows you frequent a particular app, she’ll throw up something with the intent of making you see it, even if it looks like a regular status update.
Post a song by a band you told her you liked or pull up a picture from a place you two went that she knows you love.
She’ll leave that picture as her breadcrumb, anticipating you’ll message her about it. It allows her to initiate without actually initiating.
The memory bank
She will randomly recall something small and meaningless that you mentioned to her weeks ago to see if you remember saying it.
If you respond as if she just blew your mind by remembering something that trivial, then she knows that she has you convinced that she listens more than anyone else.
Slowly but surely, she has created this “us against everyone else” mentality, in which she has cemented her value to you by being the one who really understands you.
Pullback phase
If everything is going perfectly, she may back away from you an inch or two for a day or two to see if you’ll try to come closer.
She has to test the waters and make sure that you are just as interested as she is, because she doesn’t want to be all in on someone who’s not going to pursue her.
When you reach out to make sure she’s alright, it signals to her that she can safely return to her usual self.
It’s one final check to ensure that the foundation you’re building together is sturdy enough for her to truly commit.
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