The movies love showing attraction as a big moment that everyone notices, but in reality, the signs that you’re attractive are a lot more subtle and a lot easier to miss.
A split-second detour
It barely lasts. Someone glances at your lips while you’re talking, and it’s over so quickly that you probably don’t even notice it when it happens. It’s not like they’re fixated on your mouth or anything, that’d be creepy, but their eyes flick down for a second before coming up.
Looking at someone’s mouth is a sign that they’re thinking about the part of your face that has to do with smiling and talking, as well as kissing. You’re not exactly going to do that with someone you think is ugly, are you?
The room has an arrow
A person’s body tells you a lot about their thoughts, and the way their body’s angled tells you even more. It doesn’t matter that they’re talking to someone or laughing at a group joke because when their torso’s facing you, you know who they’re really paying attention to.
People tilt their bodies toward the thing, or person, they want more of. If you’re someone who has a lot of people turning towards you, take that as a good sign that you’re an attractive person.
Just a little closer
That’s not all for body language. Turns out, when people sit a little bit inside your personal space, they’re not trying to be rude or anything. They think you’re attractive. It could be something as simple as choosing the seat right next to you or leaning into your side a bit.
That’s not to say that everyone has the same idea of personal space because, yes, it’s possible their bubble is a little different from yours. But it could also mean that they’re attracted to you.Â
The space gets cleared
Another thing about space is how they try to open more of it up between you two, and it involves taking away the objects in the middle. Goodbye to the menu, ciao to the laptop, adios to the jacket, whatever.Â
They keep moving stuff out of the way because they want the space to feel open. They’re aiming to remove the distance, and that usually involves taking away the barriers, even though they probably don’t even know they’re doing it. Still happening, though.
Their hands get busy
Watch their hands. Are they touching their neck or face a lot? Maybe they’re obsessed with their hair or jewelry, but only when they’re talking to you, and that’s a good sign they think you’re attractive.
It could be nerves, of course. That happens. But it could also mean that you’re easy on the eyes because people are usually more aware of how they look when they’re around someone attractive.
Suddenly, you’re squared up
Side-by-side is one thing. Face-to-face is completely different, and when you’re attractive, people keep finding whatever excuses they can to make each moment into a direct one. They’ll reposition themselves to make sure they’re directly in front of you.
Not always in an obvious way, they don’t want to seem weird, they just make sure they position themselves so they’re face-to-face with you. More opportunities to catch your eyes, more opportunities to catch your smile. Simple.
A softer angle appears
The neck’s another thing to pay attention to, and people tend to show off theirs when they’re around someone who’s handsome. It could be something as basic as tilting their head, maybe moving their hair off their shoulder, but the goal’s the same. Their neck or collarbone is out.
Sometimes a person’s neck is just itchy, so don’t mistake every open neck as a sign of attraction. But coupled with smiling? Coupled with constant attention? You can’t exactly mistake that for anything else, really.
Their mouth almost says something
You might notice that their face makes it look like they’re listening, but their mouth is doing something else, although it’s not because they’re not paying attention. No, that parting of the lips, that cheek bite, they’re both good indicators that they’re into you.
You’d probably miss the signs unless you were really paying attention. But the truth is, someone’s mouth usually reacts a lot quicker than the brain does.
Nothing gets tucked away
It’s back to the hands for this one. But this time, it’s the lack of hands around other people that you might notice, when people put their hands straight into their pockets or hide them under the table. Then you enter the room.
Their hands become a lot looser and more visible when you’re around, even when it’s something as simple as putting their hands on the table. Research shows that an open posture is a pretty strong indicator of romantic appeal. Visible hands? They fit right in with that.
The camera is already decided
Other people ask you to get into the group shot and pull you into the middle of a picture. Not because they want you to be the center of attention, but because they assume you’ll photograph well.Â
They think you’ll know what to do. People are hardly going to do that around someone who they think is unattractive, and their confidence in you being photogenic is good news.
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