The most common complaints women have about men aren’t exactly huge issues, but more like simple things he sees, yet walks away from.
The thing sitting right there
Here’s the thing. Everyone can see that the trash can’s full, everyone knows that it’s there, but somehow, she always ends up being the only one talking about it. She has to ask him to take it out. Every. Single. Time.
The issue isn’t that he doesn’t do anything because, sure, he does. The problem’s that he waits for his partner, aka his manager, to tell him when to do it. No woman wants to have that role all the time.
The very low bar
Congratulations are in order. He didn’t cheat. Apparently, that’s supposed to cover the whole relationship, and anything he does wrong doesn’t matter. Why? Because he didn’t cheat. Faithfulness matters, of course, and women completely get that.
Their issue’s with how a guy uses ‘I didn’t cheat’ as an excuse for everything under the sun. No, it doesn’t justify being emotionally lazy or doing the bare minimum.Â
The couch version
He thinks he’s okay because he’s at home and his body is there. He might even put his phone away when she’s talking. That’s not good enough. Women notice that he’s only giving ‘yeah’ and ‘mm-hmm’ at random intervals.
It’s not like they’re asking for a deep candlelit conversation every night or anything. That’s not realistic. She just wants the person she’s in the room with to, you know, actually be in the room with her. It shouldn’t be that much of an ask.
The helper badge
Some dads pack lunches and drive to practice. They handle the kids’ bedtimes, too. But then they’ll still act as though it’s a task for them to do, not a real relationship.
The shoe size? The permission slip?Â
These guys don’t remember any of that because it’s not important. Women aren’t going to start applauding him when he does the bare minimum with the kids. They don’t want to be the one responsible for everything. He has a part to play, too.
The long explanation
The problem with some guys is that they never apologize. The problem with other guys is that they apologize incorrectly. They’ll say that they’re sorry, but traffic was bad and he thought she meant later, so it’s okay. Right?
That doesn’t make it any less annoying. A big part of a real apology is taking responsibility, and many women get annoyed by the guys who don’t understand that.
The helpless act
It’s weird how a few guys are able to solve problems at work and fix a router, but struggle at home. They supposedly can’t figure out how to use the washing machine. That’s the issue. Saying ‘I don’t know’ all the time gets old pretty fast, especially when it’s a basic task.
The instructions are right there. So’s Google. Unfortunately, many women have to deal with guys who seem completely unable to do even the most basic tasks. His confusion becomes another chore for her, again and again.
The silent face
Calmness is one thing. Maturity is another. A lot of women are unhappy because they’re with men who don’t understand the difference between the two. He thinks that not yelling and not being dramatic makes him mature. Sure.
A guy who behaves like that isn’t giving a real answer. That’s not to say it’s better to argue, but being quiet doesn’t mean you’re handling it well. Sometimes, it’s just being quiet.
The cross-examination
One thing a lot of women are tired of happens during an argument. They’ll say something like, ‘That upsets me,’ and he’ll take it as an excuse to turn the whole thing into a court case. He wants the exact words and the exact time. All the context. All the details.
Of course, it’s unrealistic, and that’s kind of the point of why he’s doing it. It makes the argument center around the footnotes. Women hate having to deal with guys who are defensive like that because it drains them way too much.
The missing file
It’s okay to forget things sometimes, most women do that, too. It’s not okay when you forget the same thing, ten times, in one month. No, using ‘I forgot’ as an excuse all the time makes a lot of women really annoyed, especially when guys act like it closes the case.
Funny how he forgets to do the stuff that’s not fun, like the laundry or washing the dishes. The stuff he likes doing never gets forgotten. How convenient.Â
The second request
She asked normally the first time. She might’ve even said it sweetly. But then, he doesn’t do what she asked, so she’s got to say it again, a little sharper this time. Cue the argument. Women are tired of having to deal with that situation all the time.
What they really want is for guys to listen the first time, so they don’t have to ask again and again. She doesn’t like having to remind him all the time.
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